Comments on: Stigma http://www.drummingbigbear.com/archives/2830?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=stigma Listen close, I'll tell you a story... Mon, 06 Feb 2012 21:39:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Chris Heffner http://www.drummingbigbear.com/archives/2830/comment-page-1#comment-1831 Chris Heffner Wed, 10 Mar 2010 16:40:05 +0000 http://www.drummingbigbear.com/?p=2830#comment-1831 Dude what are you talking about. I know I haven't known you your whole life, but I can tell you your one of the most trusted persons I know. I'm sure you have your faults and you might have been one of the biggest dickheads ever, but you have to live in the now and not linger to long on your past. Of course there are going to be people that only know you from your past and base their decisions on that. I have the same problem with some of my friends that can only rememeber we as the party guy and whore dog of my youth and still treat me like that guy. The truth is I'm not that guy anymore there are parts of my personality that retain that person but I'm a husband and a father now and have a completely different set of goals now. It's funny that most of my so called friends love ripping on me for my past, but as soon as we're hanging out and having a drink they want me to act like the old me because that dude was fun. The guy I am today is not the devil my care guy of my youth and if I show any responibilty or act like an adult they come down on me for not being the hell raiser of the past, but these people are the same people that would be the first to make fun of me for my bad behavior as soon as the party is over. So it's OK for me to be a clown when it suites them but not cool to be a clown when they not in the mood for the circus. There are lots of people that think they know us but all men change after becaming a husband and most certainly when becoming a father. The only reason you and I changed wasn't for ourselves but for our family because we thought that our family deserve better then what we thought we were. We have no hidden agenda we're just trying trying to be the man we feel our families deserve and if others hold your past against you or they are holding you back from being the man you wish to be then they are not friends. They were at one time but that time has pasted. Move on and don't give these people another thought. Only worry about what your daughter and wife feel about you they are the only ones that count. Dude what are you talking about. I know I haven’t known you your whole life, but I can tell you your one of the most trusted persons I know. I’m sure you have your faults and you might have been one of the biggest dickheads ever, but you have to live in the now and not linger to long on your past. Of course there are going to be people that only know you from your past and base their decisions on that. I have the same problem with some of my friends that can only rememeber we as the party guy and whore dog of my youth and still treat me like that guy. The truth is I’m not that guy anymore there are parts of my personality that retain that person but I’m a husband and a father now and have a completely different set of goals now. It’s funny that most of my so called friends love ripping on me for my past, but as soon as we’re hanging out and having a drink they want me to act like the old me because that dude was fun. The guy I am today is not the devil my care guy of my youth and if I show any responibilty or act like an adult they come down on me for not being the hell raiser of the past, but these people are the same people that would be the first to make fun of me for my bad behavior as soon as the party is over. So it’s OK for me to be a clown when it suites them but not cool to be a clown when they not in the mood for the circus. There are lots of people that think they know us but all men change after becaming a husband and most certainly when becoming a father. The only reason you and I changed wasn’t for ourselves but for our family because we thought that our family deserve better then what we thought we were. We have no hidden agenda we’re just trying trying to be the man we feel our families deserve and if others hold your past against you or they are holding you back from being the man you wish to be then they are not friends. They were at one time but that time has pasted. Move on and don’t give these people another thought. Only worry about what your daughter and wife feel about you they are the only ones that count.

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